I love being married. I love my husband, and I loved merging our lives together. But I’ll be honest, sometimes being married isn’t such a picnic. It takes a lot more self-reflection and improvement than when you’re single. You’re beholden to another human and have to plan your life accordingly.
Because of all the extra work that goes into being married, it’s important for every married couple to do as much as possible to set themselves up for success. Here are some of the ways that you can be proactive in doing that.
1. Go to church.
We’re told in the Bible to not neglect meeting together so that we may encourage each other (Hebrews 10:25). As a married couple, it’s important to receive encouragement by being a part of a Christian community.
It’s not just you two against the world—you’re joined together but also a part of a much larger, Christian family. And that’s a great thing! It’s also important to be learning more about the Bible together, and church is one way to do that.
2. Attend a Bible study together.
Attending a Bible study gives you an even closer Christian community. It’s there where you can meet and share things that are going on in your personal lives. And if you find a Bible study through your church then it’s a way to make more connections with other members, especially in a large church setting.
3. Pray together.
Praying together helps keep your spiritual lives connected, which connects you and your husband on an even deeper level as the two of you grow closer to God simultaneously.
4. Make goals for your future.
It is so important to have mutual goals with your spouse. Life is all about growth, and if you aren’t growing in the same direction then that means you are growing apart. Part of what directs your growth is what you are aspiring towards.
If you don’t know what you and your husband’s life goals are then take some time to ask each other what exactly it is you both want in life and how you can be shaping your day to day lives in order to reach those goals together.
5. Make a budget.
Financial conflict is one of the most common reasons for divorce. Make sure to nip this potential issue in the bud as soon as possible and make a plan together, that you can both agree on, for how you will manage your finances.
As John Maxwell says, “A budget is telling your money where to go, instead of wondering where it went.” If you and your spouse are telling your money where to go together then there will be little room left for financial arguments. For some tips on how to save money head to my post 8 Ways To Save Money While Paying Off Debt.
6. Take Financial Peace University.
Taking the financial planning a step further, I think that all couples should go through Dave Ramsey’s course Financial Peace University. It is a super simple, nine-week course that teaches you how to handle money the Biblical way to set yourselves up for financial success and stability.
7. Find an older, more mature Christian mentor couple.
Having a mentor couple was so impactful for me and my husband, particularly when we were first together. We started our relationship by meeting semi-regularly with a couple we had known for a while, and now if we ever have something we need advice on we know that we have amazing people we can talk to who are much wiser than us. This alone is very comforting and helps us feel like we have support if we ever need it.
Make sure to do you and your husband a favor by finding ways to be proactive with improving your marriage. Take the time to invest in activities that will help you to grow in your spiritual walks and plan things like your finances and future goals to make sure that you are both on the same page and growing together. If you can do that then you will be ahead of the game and on your way to having a stronger marriage!
What things do you and your husband do together to build intentionality in your marriage?
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